tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2271063888121299568.post8767587942934551964..comments2023-04-10T05:18:36.315-07:00Comments on amo vitam: Me, TooAMOffenwangerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04429398915780302831noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2271063888121299568.post-18270746680986106102014-03-28T10:31:15.752-07:002014-03-28T10:31:15.752-07:00Yes, the message of "You can be anything you ...Yes, the message of "You can be anything you want to be!", good as it's been for many people, has also done damage. And we need to realise that we just see the tips of other people's icebergs, that they aren't being "everything they can be" either. We need to be ourselves (and that's what "honesty" means).AMOffenwangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04429398915780302831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2271063888121299568.post-71688165983812795492014-03-28T10:27:09.553-07:002014-03-28T10:27:09.553-07:00Thanks, Lee, for the comment and the poem. Yes, th...Thanks, Lee, for the comment and the poem. Yes, that's a really important point too - I've done the "hide my light under a bushel" as well, and it's not helpful. Some of it has to do with who you choose to associate with, too - if your friends can't handle you being who you are (with your successes *and* your failures), maybe it's time to find new friends.<br />And yes, you're right - I'm not advocating letting it all hang out on FB (especially when you're a public figure like an author, whose "friends" list includes lots of strangers). We just need to become aware that if we're comparing others' *public* image to our *private* reality, we're shooting ourselves in the foot. It's like comparing our morning face with the airbrushed images of celebrities on magazine covers!<br />AMOffenwangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04429398915780302831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2271063888121299568.post-56666396903334554182014-03-28T09:45:05.248-07:002014-03-28T09:45:05.248-07:00Dearest A ~ Thank you for THIS honest reflection t...Dearest A ~ Thank you for THIS honest reflection that is the cream to my coffee today. I write smiling because I feel I am sitting here with YOU. I was up into the wee hours speaking with my spouse about (post a doz. 40-ish women book club discussing the same) the challenges of this gen. expectations upon oneself as well as all of those around us and this being among the first with such great of expectations (others would be out working physically HARD all day (alone) and come in excruciatingly tired to fall into bed...and repeat daily. The need for connection was still there, but the expectations and ways to meet these needs were so different. Todays social media as well as the "you can do it all" mentality is truly disheartening. It is my belief system that there are two antidotes to this: 1.) honesty (ie. above ;) and 2.) Gratitude. Speaking the truth is helpful, even when it's blatantly obvious. I have enjoyed your posts and pics. and know they are only telling SOME of the story. When folks want more...we p/m or call. Those who watch from the sidelines only know in part. Keep writing...there is freedom for all of us.Jinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14310304589624323426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2271063888121299568.post-6484801399563142022014-03-28T09:40:47.907-07:002014-03-28T09:40:47.907-07:00Excellent post!! Love it. Brene Brown's work...Excellent post!! Love it. Brene Brown's work is very important - and she is great to listen to on her TED talk.Ms. Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13163483553786683993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2271063888121299568.post-40041811065681543642014-03-28T01:52:54.087-07:002014-03-28T01:52:54.087-07:00Great post, Angelika. Thanks for being so honest a...Great post, Angelika. Thanks for being so honest and vulnerable. I read that GenYer post before too, and I think there's a difference between expectations and entitlement, which is a bigger current problem in western culture. Shrinking our expectations may make us happier or at least more content, especially in areas we can't control. Surrender to God brings peace. The other side of this is this poem (I found on Facebook!). <br /><br />Our Deepest Fear<br />By Marianne Williamson<br />Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. <br />Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. <br />It is our light, not our darkness<br />That most frightens us.<br />We ask ourselves<br />Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?<br />Actually, who are you not to be? <br />You are a child of God.<br />Your playing small <br />Does not serve the world. <br />There's nothing enlightened about shrinking <br />So that other people won't feel insecure around you.<br />We are all meant to shine, <br />As children do. <br />We were born to make manifest <br />The glory of God that is within us.<br />It's not just in some of us; <br />It's in everyone.<br />And as we let our own light shine, <br />We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. <br />As we're liberated from our own fear, <br />Our presence automatically liberates others.<br /><br />As to Facebook presenting a false image of people - this is true. But don't we all just cringe when people get too personal about air their dirty laundry there?<br /><br />Lee Strausshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08994305348023894653noreply@blogger.com